About Grief Recovery
I’m not going to tell you how you feel…
… because I don’t know, and neither does anyone else.
If you are reading this right now, it’s very likely your heart is broken or that you feel something is missing in your life.
It may be that it’s because of a recent death or a death from long ago. Perhaps it’s from a divorce or from a loss of health.
Maybe you have put someone you love and care about into memory care, and your heart breaks every time you see them. You think about avoiding the visits because they are so painful.
It could be because you aren’t as happy or fulfilled as you thought you would be at this point in your life.
It may have been caused by one of the 40 other losses that we can encounter throughout our life.
No matter what has caused your broken heart, you know how you feel – and you probably don’t feel good.
When we work together, I will guide you through the actions you need to take to regain a sense of well-being by using The Grief Recovery Method®.
It’s a proven method where you can do the work that can help you heal from the pain of the grief caused by a loss or losses you have experienced in your life.
It’s not about forgetting someone or something that happened.
We will always live with the loss.
It’s about recovering from the pain of the grief that can keep us stuck.
It’s about recovering from the pain, so we go from existing in life to truly living life.
About Me
My early path in life…
I grew up in a home with alcohol addiction and codependency. It was a family secret… and not only did we not talk about it in OUR family, but we certainly didn’t talk about it to those outside it.
I learned at an early age to repress and not talk about my feelings, and I lost the trust and safety that a child needs to be emotionally healthy. My parents weren’t bad people, but they could not teach or give me what they did not know or have themselves.
I ended up graduating from high school early. I got married at age 16 and moved away to another state. Being emotionally immature, I was unable to give 100% to the marriage, which ended in divorce.
Unresolved issues and trauma in adulthood…
I did everything that is supposed to make me a successful and productive person. I graduated college, got a good job, bought a house, and got remarried. But on the inside, I felt something was wrong. I didn’t feel worthy… as though I didn’t quite fit in. I had my own addiction problem prior to getting remarried, but the marriage didn’t make me feel any better. I was determined to press on, so I kept my “everything’s fine” mask firmly in place.
In 2013, right before Labor Day weekend, I was out of town training for a new job I had accepted when I got a call that my husband had died. I was devastated because we had been together 20 years, and he was only 42 years old. Six months later, my best friend died of breast cancer. I was overwhelmed by the deaths of these two significant people in my life.
What brought me into this work…
After a few years, I finally let go and sold the house we had together. That move triggered an avalanche of grief. I felt totally broken.
I found Grief Recovery and began a true healing journey. I realized that I was not broken; I just had a broken heart. Grief Recovery was so transformational and life changing that I now help others who desire to heal from the pain of the grief caused by a loss.
You don’t have to go it alone.
If you’ve ever thought… “I can handle this on my own. I’ll stay strong. I’ll give it time. I’ll stay busy… and eventually I’ll feel okay…,” you are not alone.
These are the methods that we are taught to cope with loss. Unfortunately, they don’t work.
We may have times of feeling better.
But often, we find ourselves relieving pain through isolation, retail therapy, binge watching TV, or even drinking. These are just a few of the ways we try and cope, but these methods only offer temporary comfort.
Our friends and family mean well and want to help us “fix” our pain. You don’t need to be fixed, because you are not broken.
You just need someone to guide you through the process of mending your broken heart.
It’s okay to get help.
Together in a safe environment, a place where you are not judged or told how you feel. A place where you will be heard, seen, and not given unsolicited advice.
A place where healing can begin.
Come on a journey with me – a journey like no other. Give me a call today: (469) 706-0993